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How To Turn Your Confidence ON!

How To Turn Your Confidence ON!

One of the most fascinating aspects of mindset is that it encapsulates many components, and that each of these can be taught and learned. That’s one of the things that attracted me to this field because you can learn and master any of these components to impact your life, career, and business.

Let’s look at one of these integral mindset components: confidence. Your confidence (or lack thereof) has a direct impact on your success, and I will share some of my favourite strategies for you to boost it, so that you can maximise your success.

This is a component very close to my heart, and as I write I’m drawn to my old self, a few years back… I want to share to remind you of what is possible: back then, if you had told me I would become the person I am today, there is no way I’d have believed you! At that time to say I was not confident was an understatement! My lack of confidence directly impacted all areas of my life, and people around me often said “Ah, she won’t do much in life.”.

Then, I discovered you could learn confidence. And I realised that confidence is not something you are born with or without; it is something that you can acquire at any point in time. You see, confidence is a state of mind and one that you can consciously step in to every single day. Confident people are not born with confidence; they don’t just have it: they have it because they apply confidence strategies, and as a result, are described as confident.

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 When talking about mindset and its various components, I often refer to a switch button, one of those you can turn ON and off. Well, this is it: here are ways to turn your confidence ON. These strategies are sorted into 3 sections as I believe that you are confident when you think confidently, feel confidently, and act confidently.

Think Confident

  • Have a robust plan of actions: people lacking confidence are uncertain about their plans, so confidently map out your steps, goals, and milestones to where you want to go,
  • Control your inner voice: people lacking confidence tend to listen AND believe their negative internal dialogue, so confidently control your thoughts by ignoring the negative, and embracing the positive,
  • Remind yourself of your greatness: people lacking confidence tend to dismiss their past achievements and disregard their current progress and successes, so confidently list these.

Feel Confident

  • Watch out for your physiology: people lacking confidence tend to slouch, look down, and cross their arms, so confidently stand up, look up and open up your chest,
  • Take care of your image: people lacking confidence tend to hide behind colourless clothes, so confidently pick outfits that make you feel ‘like a million dollar’,
  • Be proud of your body: people lacking confidence tend to dislike their body, so confidently love your body, whatever body shape it is; what matters is that you love it (and if you don’t, do address your vitality and fitness goals).

Act Confident

  • Pay attention to your walk: people lacking confidence tend to walk at a slower pace, so confidently walk like you are walking with a purpose,
  • Concentrate on your breathing: people lacking confidence tend to breathe erratically and at a much faster pace, so confidently breathe at a normal pace, grounding yourself,
  • Focus on your speech rate and tone of voice: people lacking confidence tend to talk quietly and fast, so confidently speak up at a slightly slower speech rate while easily articulating your message.

Apply these confidence strategies over and over again; they will soon become habits, and you’ll naturally step in that confident state of mind. I’d even (strongly!) suggest you create your very own confidence routine, and work on it daily.

Do not let a lack of confidence hold you back. You can do anything. Decide today that you can think, feel and act confidently, and go for it. Only you know how much you are going to achieve when you think, feel and act confidently!

What do you think? I’d love to hear from you! Which one(s) of these confidence boosters will you apply from today onwards?

Please leave a comment and join the below conversation!

Until next time ;-)

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This article first appeared in The Small Business Owner Magazine as part of my regular mindset column.

To your Mountain Moving Mindset,
Frederique

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  • tomshark

    Great stuff Frederique! I need to remind myself of my own greatness on a daily basis as I pursue a new field.

    • Hi Tom @tomshark:disqus ,

      Thank you, delighted you’ve enjoyed it!

      And, thanks for sharing the confidence booster you are going to apply from today onwards; I recommend you wrap up today by listing one of your wins, progress, accomplishments (no judging, all sizes count!) and you can write it on a sticky note for the visual impact. Do this every day, and simply add the notes as you build up your very own Greatness cloud.

      Have a great week,
      Frederique

  • Al Smith

    One questions to ask myself, “Have I given myself full credit for what I’ve done?”

    • Hi Al ,

      Thank you for commenting.

      That’s a good tactic to implement the “Remind yourself of your greatness” strategy, thanks for sharing. I suggest you set a reminder to ask yourself this question on a daily basis, or weekly, on Friday works well too to wrap up the week.

      Have a superb weekend,
      Frederique

  • Manoj Shah

    Thanks Frederique – Great sharing …….

    • Hi Manoj,

      Thank you, I appreciate the comment!

      Have an outstanding weekend,
      Frederique

  • Scooter

    You always have to be confident and know that in life you have just a great of chance of achieving anything just like the person(s) next to you. Frederique you are so inspiring and amazing and you also teach. I always look forward to reading your next post.

    • Hi @disqus_bpivljcufC:disqus,

      Thanks for the comment.

      I am honoured and truly appreciate your words. Delighted to have you as one of our M3 Power Community members!!!

      Have a spectacular Sunday,
      Frederique

  • Javi Andreu

    Congratulations Frederique!
    The best post about this issue I’ve read for a long time.
    I feel completely identified with all your post, specially with:
    “My lack of confidence directly impacted all areas of my life, and people around me often said “Ah, she won’t do much in life.”
    When I was teenager my confidence default brought me some problems, only experience and age let me improve about. It’s important all you have said: improve attitude, having esteem or learning to have it, at least.
    Feel Confident – Watch out for your physiology – is the most important to me.

    • Hi Javi @javiandreu:disqus ,

      Thank you for the comment, I’m so happy to hear you say that this is the best post you’ve read on confidence lately!

      And, thanks for sharing your own experience, and the one strategy you’ll particularly pay attention to going forward.

      I believe that we can teach these strategies from a very young age, so that people do not have to wait for the age/experience, and can learn it straight away, and grow stronger day after day. This is one of the reasons I am so passionate about my topic 😉

      Have a spectacular day,
      Frederique

      • Javi Andreu

        I totally agree about teaching strategies from a very young age. I think great talents are lost because of this problem. On the other han life of many persons are marked forever by these problems.
        Thank you Frederique, Enjoy rest of the week
        Javi Andreu

  • Al Smith

    Thank you for pointing out that confidence can be learned or acquired by consistent effort and focus.

    • It is my pleasure Al, as it is such an important point, and a great one to then learn and apply while having that consistency in mind.

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